I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been places I don’t belong. Usually it’s not so much that I truly don’t belong, as much I don’t appear to belong. I am sort of an old soul chameleon. I enjoy having different hobbies and interests that don’t necessarily mix amongst themselves.
When I moved to California and became involved in a few different scenes, whether it was music, surfing, desert camping or antiquing, I found that as long as you play the part and believe that you belong, you can generally avoid standing out.
The first time I met the Red Hot Chili Peppers, I was at a charity event with a friend/date; I’m not sure what he was, honestly. I bought my way into a small show, but there was a clear segregation between invited celebrities and ticket holders. My “date” was clearly more interested in mingling with the bartenders while I was interested in making my very first attempt to score a couple minutes with the Peppers; any of them would do. So while my “date” and I went separate ways, I found myself locking eyes with another fan who did not dress the part. I mean, I had clearly been prepared in a sparkly pink sequin shirt, leather pants and spiked heels. He was in a Chili Pepper t-shirt and Dickies. Still, as I stood alone, as did he, at least we knew we had something in common; Chili Peppers.
After the usual introductions, he quickly asked if I’d been into the forbidden area of the evening; the main house. I likely replied with something goofy like, “but we aren’t allowed in there”. Fan Boy had a hint of trouble in his eyes, said “come on” and grabbed my hand. As we approached a kitchen area, which had a wide open door to the back of the mansion, he stopped me and looked me dead in the eyes and said “if you act like you belong here, no one will question you. Act like you own the place”.
So in the door we went, amongst buzzing kitchen workers, up the back stairs in stilettos I could barely function in and there we were. We were in. This was my first concert rule that I’d keep branded in my mind for all time; act like you belong and no one will question you. It works because we clearly did not look the part, but we acted like we did…until we approached the band Continue reading